Surrender: Standing in Our Rhythms and Power
Hmmm. As we just had our yearly women’s “Plant Your Seeds for the New Year” Temple circle, surrendering came up a lot in our witnessing of what we each needed to let go of from the past year to move on.
At this time in life, when so many things seem on the precipice of movement, sometimes it’s just about Surrender.
But what is surrender? Is it the same as letting go?
Maybe. Let’s do some exploring.
We acknowledged in the Women’s Temple that letting go of objects or old habits may be easy for some.
Even letting go of an old pattern of feeling a certain way that is plain exhausting may be easy for some of us.
But, sometimes more is needed. Something more that’s intangible. Something that runs deep inside us.
Surrender is more.
It’s not so simple and black and white.
Surrender runs deep into our inner rhythms and knowledge of self as well as conditioning from society.
Surrender asks us to let go with an awareness that there is nothing we can do except be with what is.
That we can’t “fix”something or even better, that there is nothing to be “fixed” because this is how it is supposed to be.
In surrendering, it’s good to remember that we also are NOT creating what is happening to us.
This new age shaming for creating our own reality has got to go.
It’s creating morality issues that back up into the sewers of society, allowing outside influences to control the timelines of our well being and vitality.
I say that we don't always create our reality because sometimes things just happen.
Our bodies show us these changes everyday as we age.
Or - A tornado hits a small town. Power goes out due to a storm. Things just happen. And things happen where we have no inkling what the outcome will be.
Surrendering to that which is not known yet...
is like a purification of sorts.
Surrendering is one of the greatest acts of personal empowerment. We’re not submitting - giving away something that another can decide for us - or giving it up to fate.
It’s calling on us for radical acceptance; possibly even the opportunity to for us to dive deep as we allow others to help us rediscover more of our true essence, or uncover a strength or gift we didn’t know we had.
photo by Patrick fore
Oftentimes, surrender is not comfortable, and often not “fun”.
It can bring up feelings of hopelessness, anger, despair, shame, depression, self-judgement (oh, the self judgement), not-enoughness, fear of the unknown, and so much more…
Surrender is a spiral that goes in and comes back out. It is what connects us to our deepest internal voice, our truest selves, and that which also connects us to the world beyond our bodies and energy. To the ways in which we have protected ourselves and learned to be so we safe. It can also be the ways our culture and its insidious pressing ideals of its how’s, should haves, and could have beens if only (fill in the blank) sinks deep into our energetic makeup.
With this in mind, deep surrendering brings up primal shadow work within ourselves, our beliefs, and how it all intertwines with the world around us.
It asks us to TRUST, without any knowing beyond in the future, what’s right in front of us. To dig deep, remember our rhythms of healing mind, body, and spirit, what we believe and how we may allow feelings of insecurity and safety limit the new that is being called in.
What I am learning is that this Trust part of Surrendering is also about Receiving.
Trusting that we receive what we can handle and what comes to fruition.
Something else I’m learning is that here is no single timeline for Surrender as we are taught culturally.
We all surrender at our own pace, our own flow.
To go along with another's timetable is a form of submission. (Healing doesn’t happen becasue someone asks it to move faster and be more efficient!)
But, to allow our own journeys time into surrender, and the ways in which we are uncomfortable to show up, allows us to release old ways of being and the stress and struggle of our expectations.
It eases our bodies energy into something new and unknown to us.
We all do this within our unique rhythms and in our own time.
So there is a magical partnership of Three - Surrender, Trust, and Receptivity.
They all walk hand in hand when we cross the invisible bridge into a new way of being and doing. (like in Indiana Jones and the Last Crusade.)
In doing so, Surrendering asks us to trust our own rhythms and guidance so we may gently and gracefully navigate our internal world and surrender into the next phase of our life.
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